Thursday, March 8, 2012

To Kill or Not to Kill

Evidently, THAT is the question in today's society.

http://jme.bmj.com/content/early/2012/03/01/medethics-2011-100411.full


First let me say a few things before I post MY thoughts on this article. 

1.  I may not be as well "educated" in the sense of the level of academics I have achieved, as the authors of this article...BUT sometimes well educated people are still idiots.

2.  I haved mixed emotions on responding to this absurd proposal.  On the one hand, it is so "OUT THERE" that I don't want to waste my time arguing something so absurd.  But... I also see the world in which we live; and I see that we need to stand up for what is right, because even the crazy, absurd things are happening and becoming acceptable more frequently.


Here is my response to this article:

The authors use a lot of "if-then" type statements to justify what they are saying, so I will continue with that type of reasoning.

1.  IF the authors are wrong, and "right to life" is granted by God at the beginning of a human being's life as written in the Bible, THEN they are guilty of proposing murder; as society is already killing life before birth, now they want to add to that - life after birth. 

WHAT IF at the end of their "actual life" they find a reality that was dismissed as impossible because they leaned on their own logic?  WHAT IF they find themselves surrounded one day by the "actual eternal life" of thousands/millions of babies that were killed because of this foolish reasoning?  These lives that WILL continue in Heaven with Jesus...a man who lived an actual life on this earth, and is the ONLY way, truth, and life...Jesus who offers forgiveness to them NOW as well as anyone else who is willing to give their life to Him rather than try to keep it for themselves...Jesus who offers forgiveness to even those who take the life  of another human being.  BUT...although He gave His life for us to have eternal life with Him - we MUST accept Him as the One TRUE God and the only way to Heaven.  WHAT IF...they don't trust God rather than themselves...WHAT IF one day they find themselves face to face with the reality that they were wrong and the life that they helped to destroy?  WHAT IF they find themselves face to face with the God of this universe who says "why should I let you into Heaven, why didn't you accept My Son, and why did you not protect "the least of these" but rather promoted their deaths"??  Some may argue that this is "MY opinion"... my response - If they are right and I am wrong, then I am a fool... BUT... if I am right, and they are wrong, then they are promoting a society of murder.  My faith is in Jesus Christ and His Word, not in myself - not in my logic or reasoning; and most definitely not in their reasoning!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=egtm0XwShOc


I had to start with the Bible - because it is the only real truth, the only absolute.

Now...as to the article:

Quote: "By showing that (1) both fetuses and newborns do not have the same moral status as actual persons, (2) the fact that both are potential persons is morally irrelevant and (3) adoption is not always in the best interest of actual people, the authors argue that what we call "after-birth abortion" (killing a newborn) should be permissible in all the cases where abortion is, including cases where the newborn is not disabled."

Response:  (1) to say that fetuses and newborns do not have the same moral status as actual persons is the opinion of the authors.   This article is their attempt to "prove" their theory, but they fall VERY short of proving this statement!  (2) A fact is something proven true - no one can "prove" as a "fact" that a newborn, a fetus, or an embryo is NOT an "actual person" (term used by authors).  (3) to say that "adoption is not ALWAYS in the best interest of actual people - is to say that it IS SOMETIMES in the best interest of "actual people".  I will discuss this more when coming to certain phrases I want to cite, but initially, let me say this - "I am an actual person, so are all of my children, and all of my children are adopted.  Furthermore, ALL of my children would be defined by these authors' definition as children not worthy of life.  My 8 year old twins were adopted as embryos...I gave them nothing more than a human womb to grow in, I contributed nothing to their genetic makeup, I simply allowed them to continue growing inside my womb.  Then, after they were born, I continued to care for them as any loving mother does.  At what point along the way did they go from being "a clump of cells" to a "fetus" to a "newborn" to an "actual person"?  Even the authors state they can not determine at what point a person becomes an "actual person" according to their opinions.  We have legal terms given per stage of development.  At least the authors don't try to argue that they are "human beings", but they do go on to say that some animals are "actual persons" but newborns, fetuses, and embryos are not?!?!  REALLY???  Lauren wants to be a ballerina and a dolphin trainer.  Tyler loves to dance and says it is one of his gifts.  They have ambitions, so I guess that makes them "actual people" now.  At a 9 week ultrasound Tyler was seen turning flips, and Lauren was extending her arms and legs.  Can anyone "PROVE" that Tyler and Lauren were not purposefully moving - perhaps dancing?  I personally think they were just moving around, but...I can't PROVE that.   Madison was adopted through the foster care system.  You know, tax dollars had to pay us about $300 a month to buy her diapers and clothes and toys and a bed and a car seat and a stroller and all the other things babies need.  A waste of tax payers money vs the life of my child??  I can tell you this for certain - I (an actual person) LOVE my children VERY much!  And they are NOT an accident!!  They are NOT less valuable to me, to God, or even to society because of the way their lives began!  Madison is one of the most caring and selfless people I have ever met!!!  This world would  have taken a considerable loss if her mother or doctors had been able to kill her at birth so that she wouldn't have to go into the foster care system.  Rather than arguing that we kill these children, how about we promote a society where it is not tolerated for mothers to continue using illegal drugs when pregnant?  Rather than taking 2 years to terminate the rights of parents who continue to use drugs and refuse to help their children; why not make the process faster and get these kids into loving adoptive homes??

Quote: "A serious philosophical problem arises when the same conditions that would have justified abortion become known after birth.  In such cases, we need to assess facts in order to decide whether the same arguments that apply to killing a human fetus can also be consistently applied to killing a newborn human."

Response: In a way, I agree.  We shouldn't be able to kill newborns because of inconvenience to the birthmother or her family; and we ALSO shouldn't be able to kill fetuses because of inconvenince!!  BUT... to try to justify killing a newborn - OH SO WRONG!!!  It is wrong to take a human life.  That should be understood as a basic moral and ethical statement shared by all human beings, it is very sad that society does not value the life of humans any more than society does!  What's next?  Toddlers, preschoolers??  Are they REALLY trying to justify killing a newborn?!?!  I can't wrap my mind around abortion - I can't understand how anyone can see a baby as anything other than a baby - no matter what stage of development...but I at least expect even liberal society to protect life OUTSIDE the womb!!!



Quote:  (after talking about various medical issues with newborns) "Once these children are born, there is no choice for the parents but to keep the child, which sometimes is exactly what they would not have done if the disease had been diagnosed before birth"

Response: NO, it is NOT their only choice!  Adoption is another choice.  And there are many loving parents waiting for children, and willing to love and raise children with medical disabilities.  Again...I, being an "actual person" am one of these people.  Several of my children have various medical disabilities.  It does not change the amount of love I have for them.  It does not change how vibrant their lives are.  It does not change the value of their lives!!!!



Quote:  Although it is reasonable to predict that living with a very severe condition is against the best interest of the newborn, it is hard to find definitive arguments to the effect that life with certain pathologies is not worth living, even when those pathologies would constitute acceptable reasons for abortion. It might be maintained that ‘even allowing for the more optimistic assessments of the potential of Down's syndrome children, this potential cannot be said to be equal to that of a normal child’.3 But, in fact, people with Down's syndrome, as well as people affected by many other severe disabilities, are often reported to be happy.5
Nonetheless, to bring up such children might be an unbearable burden on the family and on society as a whole, when the state economically provides for their care. On these grounds, the fact that a fetus has the potential to become a person who will have an (at least) acceptable life is no reason for prohibiting abortion. Therefore, we argue that, when circumstances occur after birth such that they would have justified abortion, what we call after-birth abortion should be permissible.

Response:  So...they are saying that abortion (and the killing of a newborn) are justifiable if there is a medical complication that will affect that child's life.  WHO are THEY to get to make this determination???  They go on to even admit that some children such as those with Down's Syndrome go on to live happy lives.  BUT because of the "unbearable burden on the family and on society as a whole, when the state economically provides for their care." they try to justify killing these children either before birth or after birth.  So, going off of that logic - should we kill everyone on any form of government assistance?  Get food stamps, then you aren't worthy to live??  On disability - your life is not worth living because you cause a burden to society???   REALLY???  THIS is their argument?  Again, there are MANY people willing and eager to adopt children with disabilities - sometimes this comes with some form of government assistance, and sometimes it does not.  I am willing to say that I would rather see society "pay for" the healthcare of children born with medical disabilities that to fund missions to Mars, or even scientific research that takes the life of human embryos but has yet to provide REAL, usable results!!!!



Quote:  In spite of the oxymoron in the expression, we propose to call this practice ‘after-birth abortion’, rather than ‘infanticide’, to emphasise that the moral status of the individual killed is comparable with that of a fetus (on which ‘abortions’ in the traditional sense are performed) rather than to that of a child. Therefore, we claim that killing a newborn could be ethically permissible in all the circumstances where abortion would be. Such circumstances include cases where the newborn has the potential to have an (at least) acceptable life, but the well-being of the family is at risk. Accordingly, a second terminological specification is that we call such a practice ‘after-birth abortion’ rather than ‘euthanasia’ because the best interest of the one who dies is not necessarily the primary criterion for the choice, contrary to what happens in the case of euthanasia.                             

Response:  So they are calling it "after-birth abortion" rather than "infanticide" because in their opinion the newborn has no more moral status than a fetus.  Science does define the 2 differently - basically fetus being prior to birth and newborn or neonate being "after birth".  They can call it what they want - but the taking of a life is the taking of a life.  Abortion, infanticide, or after birth abortion...all end with a human being that was alive ceasing to be alive because another human being did something to cause that life to cease.  Again - I can not understand how anyone can be "ok" with the taking of an innocent human life - pre or post birth...but I would at LEAST expect even the most liberal person who claims to have ANY morals or ethics about them to AT LEAST protect life after birth.  Not that "I" see any difference - a life is a life; but it bothers me GREATLY that these professors are trying to take this to the next level - now they are proposing that we not only be able to kill babies BEFORE they are born, but now they are going to argue that we can kill them AFTER they are born too!!!!   And again - their main reasoning behind all of this is for convenience!!  So society doesn't have to pay money towards them, so mothers don't have to live with their child - OR give their child up for adoption!!



Quote: Failing to bring a new person into existence cannot be compared with the wrong caused by procuring the death of an existing person. The reason is that, unlike the case of death of an existing person, failing to bring a new person into existence does not prevent anyone from accomplishing any of her future aims. However, this consideration entails a much stronger idea than the one according to which severely handicapped children should be euthanised. If the death of a newborn is not wrongful to her on the grounds that she cannot have formed any aim that she is prevented from accomplishing, then it should also be permissible to practise an after-birth abortion on a healthy newborn too, given that she has not formed any aim yet.

Response:  What if the newborn is crying because he/she is cold and wants to be made warm by a blanket or warmer?   What if the newborn is crying because he/she is hungry?  Aren't they "wanting something?"  Isn't that the same as "forming an aim"?  Or perhaps forming an aim means "what you want to DO with your life"...hmmmm - I changed my mind several times during college - I guess I wasn't an actual person yet???   If a newborn wants to be held, loved, fed, made warm and you kill it - aren't you taking away from that person what he or she was wanting, hoping for? 



Quote:  The moral status of an infant is equivalent to that of a fetus in the sense that both lack those properties that justify the attribution of a right to life to an individual.
Both a fetus and a newborn certainly are human beings and potential persons, but neither is a ‘person’ in the sense of ‘subject of a moral right to life’. We take ‘person’ to mean an individual who is capable of attributing to her own existence some (at least) basic value such that being deprived of this existence represents a loss to her.

Response:  They may take "person" to mean these things, but what if they are wrong?  What if "person" means "any human life"?  I wouldn't want to be in their shoes if they are wrong.

Also - How do they know that a newborn doesn't want to die?  How do they know that they are not taking away something very valuable to that person?  Newborns may not be able to talk, but they certainly know when they are hungry, or need a diaper change.  Doesn't being a human being mean anything any more???  The value of human life is set in that person being a person - a human is what makes a person a person!  Not how smart they are.  Not how healthy they are.  Not what their hopes, dreams, and ambitions are.  Not how wealthy or poor they are.  HUMAN life IS HUMAN LIFE - it is that simple.  People can try to justify it any way they want, but if it is human and if it is alive - it is worth protecting becuase we should value human life!!! 


 Quote:  This means that many non-human animals and mentally retarded human individuals are persons, but that all the individuals who are not in the condition of attributing any value to their own existence are not persons. Merely being human is not in itself a reason for ascribing someone a right to life. .

Response:  Really?   Some non-human animals are persons, but newborn human beings are not???   "Merely being human is not in itself a reason for ascribing someone a right to life".    YES IT IS!!!!


Quote:  Indeed, many humans are not considered subjects of a right to life: spare embryos where research on embryo stem cells is permitted, fetuses where abortion is permitted, criminals where capital punishment is legal

Response:  Human embryos (such as my twins once were in a lab facility before being placed in my womb) deserve to be protected.  It is time for us to stand up for what is right, and stop letting the envelope of "when/what is a life" be pushed further and further!!!!   Fetuses where abortin is permitted - same thing, this may be legal, but it doesn't make it right.   Human embryos and human fetuses can not be compared to criminals on death row.  Certainly both are human beings, but the difference is that those on death row have been found guilty of a crime and sentenced to death - human embryos and fetuses have been found not worthy by a negligent society and sentenced to death! 


Quote:  Our point here is that, although it is hard to exactly determine when a subject starts or ceases to be a ‘person’

Response:  If you aren't sure...shouldn't we err on the side of caution?? 

 Quote:  a necessary condition for a subject to have a right to X is that she is harmed by a decision to deprive her of X. There are many ways in which an individual can be harmed, and not all of them require that she values or is even aware of what she is deprived of. A person might be ‘harmed’ when someone steals from her the winning lottery ticket even if she will never find out that her ticket was the winning one. Or a person might be ‘harmed’ if something were done to her at the stage of fetus which affects for the worse her quality of life as a person (eg, her mother took drugs during pregnancy), even if she is not aware of it. However, in such cases we are talking about a person who is at least in the condition to value the different situation she would have found herself in if she had not been harmed.          

Response:  So...it is ok to steal from someone as long as they don't know about it??

I am confused - are they saying it is OK for a person to be harmed by a mother doing drugs during pregnancy because that person is not aware of it??  Or are they saying that is wrong?

If they are saying it is ok for a mother to harm her unborn child by doing drugs during pregnancy, they are contradicting themselves because they argue that these children are born with medical problems that society then has to pay for and we should just kill these children either before they are born or after.  Why would they argue that it is ok for a mother to do drugs while pregnant - because the baby isn't aware of what the mother is doing, or rather the consequences it will cause?   Is it because their answer to the problem is that we just kill these kids??  How sick is that?

If they are saying that it is possible for a person to be harmed unaware by being victim to substance abuse prenatally, and that is wrong -  then wouldn't it be logical to say that it is wrong to kill a newborn who doesn't know you are about to kill him/her??   Both cases cause harm to a human life that is not able to protect himself/herself.  Shouldn't we put our time, money, and effort into helping people rather than promoting prenatal substance abuse and killing of newborns??


Quote:        And such a condition depends on the level of her mental development,6 which in turn determines whether or not she is a ‘person’. 

Response:          So "mental development" determines whether or not a person is a person.  Was Albert Einstein more of a person than Martin Luther King Jr?  Most people wouldn't disagree that Einstein is seen as an icon of intelligence - yet Martin Luther King Jr is seen as an icon of peace... is Einstein more worthy of life?  Was his life more important?  Can we really say that any person's life is more valuable than another?  Absolutely NOT! 


There is SO much more I want to say about this - but I need to go take care of my children (thank you to my husband who is a loving father and has been caring for them while I typed this much). 

If I felt as though this article would be dismissed for the absurdness it represents - I would not be nearly as angry as I am.  BUT... we are letting our society come to this!  These are professors in colleges that are reputable!! 

Human life is morally and ethically worthy of being protected simply because it is human life!  It is a sad day that a Journal of Medical Ethics publishes something like this!
 




Sunday, November 6, 2011

I want the WHOLE world to know

I want the WHOLE world to know - that I love you Madison!!!

Things haven't been easy for either one of us lately, but I promise you that if I could make it any better for you, I would. I would take all your hurts, dissapointments, fears, and hard times; and put them on me instead... if I could.

I wish I could have carried you and given birth to you.

I wish I could have given you a healthier, better start in life.

I wish I would have been more patient with you when you were little.

I wish I could have known "then" all that I know now, and could change the way I did some things.

But... one thing I would NEVER change is having you as my daughter!!!

I know you see me crying a lot lately, and don't really understand it all. I wish I could explain it to you better than I have. But if you only understand one thing - it is this...That the tears come from my overwhelming love for you. I can never tell you or show you how much I love you. I wish I could, but I can't, because it is beyond what words can say or what actions can show.

I am scared. I am scared of losing you. I am scared of you losing your dreams. I am scared of what our future holds. I am scared of the unknown.

But I do know that the One who gave you to me, the One who loves us both more than we can ever understand... He holds you in His hands, He holds me in His hands, He holds your dreams and your future in His hands. And He has never let me down.

Yet I still fight to hold on to my own dreams sometimes...and right now "you" are the center of my dreams.

Although I want to lock the doors, and hold you in my arms forever; I know that would be selfish - you have so much to give the world, so many people's lives that I know you are going to change. So...I have to give God my dreams, my fears, and even my love for you - and let Him have complete control. I know He won't let us down!!!!

I see that you feel things are "different" for you, because there are some things that we have or know for the twins, that we don't know or have for you - because they were adopted as embryos and I gave birth to them. I wish there was a way I could somehow show you the level of love I have for each of you, so you could see that my love for you is every bit as much as my love for them.

Although I have a passion for encouraging others to adopt - sometimes I wish I could just go back and pretend like we are a "normal" family (as if there were such a thing). Not because I am ashamed of adoption, but because I don't want you to feel any different. I don't want people to see us any different.

I wish I knew the answers - how to find the perfect ballance between protecting your health and letting you live a normal life. How much to shelter you from the hurts of the world and how much to let you learn on your own. When to hold you tight and love on you, and when to let you go out on your own - trusting that you will make the right decisions.

I am SO very, very proud of you!!! I love you so much, and I want the world to know how much I love you!! Not to embarrace you, but to hopefully show you that the things I do (although sometimes may not be the right things) are all because I love you so much.

As we head into this next journey in life - your teenage years, these new health issues, music, internet, tv, school, LIFE...I know I will make mistakes, but I hope at the end of that journey and the beginning of the next; that we will be able to look back and see that not only did we make it through, but hopefully that we can see that we came through it closer to God, closer to each other, and both of us praising God for all He has done and will do for us.

I love you baby girl! You may be as tall as me now, but to me, I still see the bald headed, blue eyed wonder that I rocked to sleep each night.


I'll love you forever
I'll like you for always
As long as I'm living
My baby you'll be!!!!
Our future may not be clear...but we are going to ride into it together..........

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

maybe soon

I hope to be back writing here on a more regular basis soon, I really miss it. I like being able to write about life, and what's going on in our lives, etc. Life has just been extremely busy lately. If I am not careful, I will let "computer time" take the place of time I need to spend on other things. So... that's where I've been - working on other, more important things; and trying to keep up with the pace that of life as it is going by. ;)

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Just Wondering...

Wondering if our "adoption story" is finished or still being planned out by God. I can say that I have enjoyed the freedom that comes with my kids getting older. OK, not really freedom; but - not having to do everything for them does give parents of older children a LITTLE bit more time - lol. Of course there are different challenges and different rewards. We are still doing foster care; so that chapter of our life is still open. And I can honestly say that I just can't close that part of my heart yet - we have been praying for a few years now about ending our time as foster parents to focus more on "our" kids; and also because dealing with the "legal", "paperwork", and "business" side of foster care for lack of better terms can and are very frustrating, stressful, and downright exhausting. But... there are just SOOOOO many kids who deserve a loving home; and wow, how my heart longs to help them.

I was at my local Children and Family Services office the other day for a meeting regarding my foster son... they had NINE, let me repeat NINE children that would be spending the night at the OFFICE, because they could not find foster homes for them!!!!!!!!! One of which was a newborn baby.

A caseworker through a medical agency that I have worked closely with for the past 6 years called me today; she was SO upset - one of her kids on her caseload was found dead in his home yesterday - he was 2 years old and had severe medical problems (he was NOT in foster care - don't want to get that rumor started, we foster parents have a bad enough reputation as it is).

A local Children's Home that our church sponsers, and Matt and I have grown very fond of; is trying to raise the funds for cottages in addition to their current dorm style facilities to allow sibling groups of different genders to live together under one roof; and also because of the increasing number of YOUNG children they are getting referrels for. Young, as in under 5 years old. It just breaks my heart.

So.... I don't know. I can honestly say, I want it both ways; and whatever God has planned for me - I know will be the best.

-I have wanted to adopt a child from Africa for a long time.
-I have wanted to adopt a child from India for a long time.
-There are still opportunities for adoption through foster care.
-NOT adopting anymore, but continuing foster care; OR adopting one more and continuing to foster 1 child is also a GREAT possibility.

So.... I guess my adoption/foster care story continues, and I don't know the ending yet ;)

And, as inpatient as I am, I wish I could flip to the back of the book and sneek a peak at the ending - but God makes it SO much more interesting by taking me through it one page, one day at a time :)

Thursday, October 29, 2009

"always my mommy"

The past few days this has been Lauren's phrase... "I love you mommy, you will always be my mommy" Oh how those words melt my heart!

Before the beginning of Lauren's life, before the beginning of my life; I believe God chose Lauren (as well as my other children, but this post is about Lauren) to be my daughter. God does not exist or work on our "timeline". When He created the world in the beginning of "our" time he included pictures in creation that would point to His plan for ALL of our lives; for our salvation, by His sacrifice:





When God chose to create my daughter and me some 30 years apart (I don't know the actual time, because I don't know how long Tyler and Lauren were frozen before we had them thawed and placed in my womb), He already knew that she would be my daughter... before my birth... before she was created in a fertility clinic and then subsequently frozen in time... before we were blessed to discover this part of God's plan for our lives and recieved our blessed little ones and I became pregnant with them... before all of that - God KNEW, God PLANNED for Lauren to be my child. In His Omniscience (all knowing) He knew she was my child, in His Omnipotence (all powerful) He was able to create her to look like me, and Omnipresent (everywhere at all times, including not defined by time) even despite the time difference in our creation... and most importantly the fact that I did not contribute at all to her genetic makeup.
                                                                                                                                Me at 3


OK, not identical, but still amazing to me!



Lauren at 3








God has spoken to mine and Matt's hearts recently in several different ways. So much so that I am praying for clarification. Adoption, foster care, birth parents, children taken from their birth parents, ultimately the protection that all kids deserve as well as loving homes, does God have more children he has "chosen" for us, does God want me to speak out more or encourage in some other way for more people to adopt and or do foster care... My mind is full, my heart is longing for answers to know what to cling to, my spirit is aching for all children to have loving, safe families to grow up in.


 I Kings 3:16 - 27 gives an account of 2 women who had given birth, 1 of the sons died, and the other lived. The mother of the dead child switched them in the night... in his wisdom received from God he ordered the living child be cut in 1/2 and each woman would get 1/2 of the child. The child's TRUE mother cried and said "no, don't kill him, let him live... give him to the other woman." King Soloman then knew and said that the child belonged to the woman willing to give him up to save his life. Although in this case the mother was the childs biological/genetic mother... I can see this in a different perspective in today's world:
I have seen women who gave birth to a child addicted to drugs because the birth moms did drugs while they were pregnant, not caring how it was harming their unborn babies. I have seen children burned, abandoned, neglected - to the point of not given what they need to live, left alone to die, prostituted out for $, nearly drowned, etc. etc. - and I have seen some of these children returned to the people who did this to them. And I have seen some of them adopted by families who would lay down their own lives for them. Tell me now... who is the "Real" parent - the one willing to lay down their life for the child. Regardless of genetics, regardless of who gave birth, regardless of similarities or differences in appearance, LOVE is what makes a parent; not giving birth!

Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Madi's story (with her permission)







Madi came to live with us when she was 3 weeks old. It was love at first sight! She was the first infant we had ever had in our care. Some of you may think this is odd, but other than the fact that I had a baby to love, I was excited because I got to go buy diapers, and baby food. Dealing with infertility, I would go by the baby section in stores and wish that I could be one of the ones buying baby stuff. In fact, I think I bought her baby food LONG before she was even able to eat it. Even today with 4 kids of my own, and having cared for close to 30 foster kids over the years, I still have a weakness for wanting to buy stuff in the baby section of stores. Our new foster baby has 5 different kinds of passies, and she doesn't even like them - lol. OK, back to Madi... we had her for 5 months and fell in LOOOOOOOOOVE with her, then something unforseen happened that broke our hearts, the state thought they had found her birth father. Around the same time we got offered a position as house parents closer to Matt's parents, so we figured, if she was going to leave us anyway, we might as well accept that position and move. The day Madi left us, we cried and grieved, it was horrible. I felt like God had meant for her to be my daughter, and it didn't make sense that she was leaving. Even then Madi was a daddy's girl, and it was especially hard on him. Two months later, we received a phone call that it turned out that the person they thought was her father, was not. They asked us if we were interested in adopting her. I have to say, that was one of the most exciting days in our life! We began making plans, and calling family, it was wonderful. Then we found out that we couldn't work for the children's home, and adopt through them too (same agency) SO... we resigned - which left us both with no job, and no place to live. God provided in amazing ways. Within 2 weeks, we had a place to live, we both had jobs, and we had our house inspection to be able to bring her to us. I am happy to say that we can literally tell Madi, not only did God choose her for us, but we chose her too. Not that we would have ever considered going the other direction, BUT we chose her over our job, our home, our security. And God blessed us for that step of faith - first with our wonderful daughter, and second by showing us how big He is, and how well He can take care of us when we give things over to Him.


There were some hurdles along the way. It took us about 3 months to get her back. There were 3 Fridays in a row that someone from the state called and said "you can go get her today" only to call right back and say "nevermind, something happened and you will have to wait". The first time that happened, we were heartbroken. The second time that happened, we were walking out the door to go get her when we got the call, and I thought "you have GOT to be kidding me!" The third Friday, I was literally sick with emotions going crazy, and sure enough we got the same call, saying still have to wait. That day, we laid on our bed, crying for hours, asking God "why". Why get our hopes up, only to have them squashed time after time. To this day, I don't know the answer to that question - other than... it was a growing experience. God was in control even then. It hurt, it was frustrating, it didn't make sense; but God was the same loving God that day, as he was the day that we picked our daughter up on Thanksgiving day (kinda ironic don't you think - lol). Learning to trust in the hard times is never easy, and for someone as stubborn and inpatient as me - it is really difficult :) BUT God is patient with me, and He continues to love me and bless me. We did bring Madi to our house on Thanksgiving day that year, and her adoption was final the day after my birthday 5 months later.


Madi, I love you with all of my heart! You are my first baby, and you will always hold a special place in my heart. I don't know that I have ever met anyone that is as compassionate as you, nor have I ever met a child that is as concerned about sharing God with others as you. You are such a special, sweet, beautiful young lady! I thank God every day for giving you to daddy and me. Love you, Mommy.

Saturday, March 7, 2009

The Final Score

The final score was 13 - 12, and this is Tyler scoring the winning run!!

There is another score I want to show you:

Benefits of Stem Cells to Human Patients
Adult Stem Cells v. Embryonic Stem CellsDownload This ListPeer-Reviewed References

Adult Stem Cells:

Cancers:
Brain Cancer
Retinoblastoma
Ovarian Cancer
Skin Cancer: Merkel Cell Carcinoma
Testicular Cancer
Tumors abdominal organs Lymphoma
Non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma
Hodgkin’s Lymphoma
Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia
Acute Myelogenous Leukemia
Chronic Myelogenous Leukemia
Juvenile Myelomonocytic Leukemia
Chronic Myelomonocytic Leukemia
Cancer of the lymph nodes: Angioimmunoblastic Lymphadenopathy
Multiple Myeloma
Myelodysplasia
Breast Cancer
Neuroblastoma
Renal Cell Carcinoma
Various Solid Tumors
Soft Tissue Sarcoma
Ewing’s Sarcoma
Waldenstrom’s macroglobulinemia
Hemophagocytic lymphohistiocytosis
POEMS syndrome
Myelofibrosis
Auto-Immune Diseases
Diabetes Type I (Juvenile)
Systemic Lupus
Sjogren’s Syndrome
Myasthenia
Autoimmune Cytopenia
Scleromyxedema
Scleroderma
Crohn’s Disease
Behcet’s Disease
Rheumatoid Arthritis
Juvenile Arthritis
Multiple Sclerosis
Polychondritis
Systemic Vasculitis
Alopecia Universalis
Buerger’s Disease
Cardiovascular
Acute Heart Damage
Chronic Coronary Artery Disease
Ocular
Corneal regeneration
Immunodeficiencies
Severe Combined Immunodeficiency Syndrome
X-linked Lymphoproliferative Syndrome
X-linked Hyper immunoglobulin M Syndrome
Neural Degenerative Diseases and Injuries
Parkinson’s Disease
Spinal Cord Injury
Stroke Damage
Anemias and Other Blood Conditions
Sickle Cell Anemia
Sideroblastic Anemia
Aplastic Anemia
Red Cell Aplasia
Amegakaryocytic Thrombocytopenia
Thalassemia
Primary Amyloidosis
Diamond Blackfan Anemia
Fanconi’s Anemia
Chronic Epstein-Barr Infection
Wounds and Injuries
Limb Gangrene
Surface Wound Healing
Jawbone Replacement
Skull Bone Repair
Other Metabolic Disorders
Hurler’s Syndrome
Osteogenesis Imperfecta
Krabbe Leukodystrophy
Osteopetrosis
Cerebral X-Linked Adrenoleukodystrophy
Liver Disease
Chronic Liver Failure
Liver Cirrhosis
Bladder Disease
End-Stage Bladder Disease

Embryonic Stem Cells:
NONE

Peer-Reviewed References (not a complete listing, sample references)
The Facts - Prentice, D. "Adult Stem Cells" Appendix K in Monitoring Stem Cell Research: A Report of the President's Council on Bioethics (Washington, DC: Government Printing Office, 2004), 309-346.

Copied From: http://www.stemcellresearch.org/facts/treatments.htm


Tyler scored the winning run today. A little over 6 years ago, he was frozen in a liquid nitrogen tank as a 5 day old blastocyst in a fertility clinic. Just like the ones that have already been killed for scientific research. Just like the many more that will be killed using OUR tax $$ after President Obama reverses the ban on federal funding of embryonic stem cell research this coming week. Imagine if Tyler were one of the ones who was killed instead of adopted... maybe his team would have lost today... I wouldn't have my little boy who means the world to me, and I promise you - the world is better because he is in it!!

If you or someone you know have frozen embryos, please give them life. And if you are able to adopt embryos, please consider it. Please be a voice for these little ones.

The Final Score will come one day when we all face our creator... which team will you be on? Do you know Christ as your personal Lord and Savior? If so, you are already on the winning team. The Bible tells us that Jesus loves little children and He tells us to love them and to stand up for those who can't.

Thank you God for Tyler and Lauren!